Five Minute Friday scribblings, Relationship

Turn: Lead Or Follow?



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By +Jeanne Takenaka @JeanneTakenaka

My Five Minute Friday prompt this week is—Turn. This largely unedited “rough draft” form of writing stretches this perfectionist, in the best of ways. I write for five minutes on a given topic. If you’re interested in learning more about 5-Minute Fridays, check out our hostess, Kate Motaung’s site. Or, click on the link at the bottom of this post. As you read my simpler Friday posts, I hope you’ll join in the conversation!





I stood face to face with him. My dancing partner. He was to be my partner—the leader—as I learned the waltz. It was all for research, but I learned important life lessons along the way.

Like, when the man leads, the woman must follow. When he directs the turn, the woman must step a certain way.

This helps avoid stepping on toes. When he signals with his movements, she needs to follow.

Oh, how hard it is to turn from the natural leader I am into the follower I must be if I am to join in the dance. And actually enjoy it! (I had no idea what a crummy follower I was until he mentioned it.)

Following his lead by looking into his eyes rather than at my clumsy feet. (which only makes me clumsier, by the way).

Holding Hands 2


One turn. Done in precise steps according to the beat.

Isn’t that how our walks are with Jesus, to a degree? He leads and we should follow. 

Some days I’m better at that than others. I sense His promptings in the words He speaks during my quiet time.

I hear his quiet words in my heart when I’m in a “situation” with one of the boys, or my husband, or a friend.

Will I turn my head and listen to Jesus’ leading in what to say, or not to say?

Or will I insist on my own way and end up flat on my face?

Relationships are a dance. With certain steps that must be taken. Certain turns done in a specific timed beat. When I accept Jesus’ lead, and I follow him? That’s when the dance is beautiful. Even amid the ugly this life sometimes throws my way.

I can turn and follow Jesus’ leading and trust that He will bring me through the ugly times, with beautiful steps, strengthening steps. Following His lead. Turning the way He directs—my head my heart, my will. 

What about you? Have you ever tried ballroom dancing? When have you turned your will to the side to follow Jesus’ leading? What happened?

***Kate Motaung’s FMF—Turn