Right now, I’m waiting. For an answer. And it feels like this waiting has been going on for nigh-unto-forever. Really, it’s only been a little over two months, but the days feel long. The thoughts keep questioning. “When will I hear an answer? Will it be the one I hope for?”
Waiting. Is. Hard.
When we’re waiting, it’s always for a change in our lives. Have you ever known someone who waits so that everything can stay the same?
Sometimes the change is one we yearn for.
A house to sell.
A child to be born.
Something we’re looking forward to, hoping for. Though these are anticipated changes, they’ re changes that will bring a shift in our normal. We want these kinds of shifts. We think we’re ready for the change.
Sometimes, we’re waiting for feedback on a project, for direction on the next step of our journey. The questions range from, “Did I accomplish what was expected? Will he/she like it, or will I have I have to make changes?”
If you’re like me, this kind of waiting can be hard because my thoughts focus on the worst-case scenario.
Other times, the waiting is for a hard change. A diagnosis that could shift our priorities. News on a job-related move. A hard change.
Someone once said, “The only thing constant in life is change.”
If this is true, then how can we weather the waiting (and the coming change) well? Here are a few thoughts:
- Wait actively. Don’t stop all aspects of life because one is on hold. We can still work on other things in our lives. And, when our mind doesn’t have time to think on the unfinished thing, we won’t be as manipulated by the uncertainties that come with waiting. We can be time-users, not time-wasters. We should be intentional with how we spend our time while we wait.
- Wait trusting. God knows the plans He has for us. Even when waiting for possibly hard answers, He is already in that place, waiting for us. He promises He will never leave us or forsake us. So we can trust Him to help us in the waiting, as well as in the coming change
- Wait focused. Not focused on the coming answer, but on Jesus. When we focus on Him, whether we’re waiting with excitement or with dread, we can know His peace.
- Wait seeking. In all things, we should seek Him. It’s when we seek Him—through His word, through prayer, through worship, and even through serving—that He can prepare our hearts for the coming step. Whether we anticipate the end of the wait, or we’re afraid, when we seek Him, He walks with us and stabilizes all the uncertainty within our hearts.
As I’m waiting for something that’s beyond my control, I’m doing my best not to focus on either the waiting or the answer. When I find my thoughts too much on the, “If only . . .” I’m learning to turn that into a prayer, asking for God’s patience and His best.
Waiting is never easy, but when our hearts and minds are set on God, the time is never wasted.
What about you? What about waiting is hardest for you? What are you waiting for right now?