Calling, Confidence, Family Relationships

Confidence: No Place For Comparison

Quiet morning

By +Jeanne Takenaka @JeanneTakenaka

Some days, I find it so easy to forget who I am . . . who God created me to be.

I was reading in Psalm 18:49-50 when it hit me. David knew, and was comfortable with, who God designed him to be.

No doubt, he endured derision from his older brothers when he was the one sent to the fields with the sheep. He heard the cutting remarks from those who were certain they knew better than he. And, he put all of himself into working with those sheep.

Quiet sunlight

Yet, when Samuel called for him—anointed him king—David knew how to walk in that, as well. Why? Because David already had a vibrant relationship with the Lord. He worshiped in the meadows. He trusted God to help him care for the sheep entrusted to him. He must have spent many lonely hours in the pastures talking with God.

Years later, when he was running from Saul, he cried out to his Abba. He rested in the truths he knew about God. And, he knew who he was before God. He reminds himself through the written word that:

“God gives great deliverance to His king. He shows lovingkindness to His anointed.” (Psalm 18:50, NASB)

David didn’t doubt that God had anointed him as the king of Israel. When Saul chased him throughout the countryside, David didn’t question that God had made him king.

This spoke to me because I struggle with embracing the callings God places on my life.

Holding Hands

Wife? Yes, this one comes more easily than others, perhaps because I’ve been practicing this role for almost twenty years.

Football line

Mother? It’s tempting to take my eyes off the Lord and place them on those around me. Those moms who attend and cheer at every one of their son’s football games? I’ve made exactly one game this season. Those moms whose kids seem so mature? What’s wrong with my mothering style that my kids are still immature?

Women Praying copy

Friend? Am I being the best friend I can be? I’m not always physically present at events. I forget to touch base with those I consider close. Or, my time is used in other ways. And we all only have twenty-four hours. Am I prioritizing things wrongly?

Writer? Ahh, this one God is redefining for me. After dealing with doubt from some things that happened recently, am I really a writer? When I miss my boy’s games because I’m attending writing-related meetings, am I doing the right thing?

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Oh, the questions, the doubts, the condemnation . . . they’re so quick to rise up in my thoughts and swirl until everything in my mind is a questioning, muddled mess.

This happens when my eyes sway from Jesus to comparison.

When my eyes are on the Lord . . .

. . . when my heart is pursuing Him and keeping Him first,

. . . it’s so much easier to walk in confidence that I’m right where I’m supposed to be in all the roles I live.

When disappointments come . . .

. . . when I see everything others are doing and then question if I’m where I should be?

That’s when the muddle happens. The doubt comes in.

I want to be more like David—confident in the callings God has gifted me. Trusting Him to enable me to fulfill those callings.

Fog lifting

Keeping my heart’s eyes trained on Jesus is the only way I’ll be able to walk in confidence.

Each of these are a gift, And they’re answers to years of prayer.

Growing in my relationship with Him, worshiping Him, spending time in His word and in His presence is what will solidify my confidence to walk in the roles God has given me. 

What about you? What helps you walk in confidence in your roles? How do you battle comparison?

10 thoughts on “Confidence: No Place For Comparison”

  1. Jeanne, how good to see you!

    I must say that the ‘fence’ picture left me dizzy.

    Guess I’m lucky. The people physically around me are sure I’ll be dead soon, and are making plans accordingly.My ‘role’ is to die within an appropriate time-frame.

    So I suppose I can choose my own meaning.

    It all comes down to this. I want to live.

    And I intend to live.


    1. Andrew, I’m sorry for causing you to get dizzy! 😦 I love that you choose to live every day well, for as many as God gives you. I continue to pray for you, and for Barb. And I’ll try not to make you dizzy anymore. 😉


  2. Blessings on you Jeannie as you continue to grow into the woman God calls you to be. I so admire your continuing desire to be all He has called you to be. Thank you for your transparency! You are an awesome young woman!


  3. Loved this, Jeanne. I have trouble reading God’s calling… Is an opportunity from him? When something comes along that’s not “my” plan, how do I know it’s his…?? But, resting in the peace of decisions and the peace of taking a risk has helped. And, learning that I can quit is so liberating. If I misread something I’m learning that it’s ok to step back. But I won’t know unless I try…


    1. Annie, I love the questions you’re asking. They’re good. Just don’t be like me and get so wrapped up in the questions and analyzing for the answers that you miss His voice. 🙂 Been there. Done that. And yes, there is freedom and grace in stepping out and then stepping back if you discover that path isn’t for you. Thank you, always, for stopping by!


    1. It’s something I struggle with too, Lisa. And yes, God holds us close. I take great comfort in knowing He doesn’t compare us with others. He encourages us to walk closer to Him. 🙂


  4. Jeanne–

    I liked this so much! I confess I’ve never thought of David from the position of comparison. But I love the lessons you’ve drawn from his life and relationship with God.

    Love you, my friend. 🙂 And bless you!


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