(This is part one of a three part series. I look forward to hearing your thoughts!)
One of the messages on my heart is never settling for good enough. I was single-longing-to-be-married for what felt like going on forever. I watched friends get married. I was invited to eleven—yes, eleven—weddings in one year, and I was a bridesmaid in three of them.
I watched some friends settle for good-enough because they were simply tired of waiting for Mr. Right to come along. I’d committed my desire to be married into God’s hands. But oh, it was hard to wait for God’s Mr. Right for me. There were times when I looked for a guy who was good-enough. What I observed when a couple friends married in haste was that good-enough usually isn’t. Good-enough, that is. Heart-ache and heartbreak came to some who hurried.
Waiting for God’s best trumps settling for good enough.
Fast forward twenty years. As a wife and a mom, an aspiring writer, a friend, a woman semi-involved at church, I sometimes wonder if I’m doing good-enough, or doing God’s best as I live out each day. So many things call to me, drawing my attention. Some seem like things I should be doing.
As a wife and a mom, I’m always striving to keep up with all that my husband and boys need. Keeping the house clean . . . okay, maybe it’s more realistic to say keeping the house mostly orderly . . . keeping up with the boys’ daily activities, making sure they’re prepared for school, for Boy Scouts, for football. Making sure my husband has a lunch in the refrigerator each morning.
As a writer, keeping up with social media, keeping my email inbox well-managed, making time to write daily . . . these are all good, important things.
I’ve been questioning lately if I’ve lost focus of God’s best for me. Am I living out the priorities God has for me in each day?
I’ve been frustrated because I haven’t had time for the things I believe God has given me to do. Instead, my time is eaten up by others’ expectations. Or sometimes by my own unrealistic expectations.
I want to finish this book that’s been burning a hole in my heart, waiting to be completed, and put out into the world. I want to make sure I’m spending quality time, each day with my family.
If I’m going to live out God’s best during my days, sometimes, that means giving up the good-enough things I tend to define as progress in my mind.
What would happen if I let go of the need to keep up with my emails so I had more time to write? What would happen if I let go of the desire for a perfectly ordered house in order to take a walk with my boys?
To live out God’s best, something that’s good enough will have to be given up. The question is, am I willing to sacrifice it?
I yearn to live out God’s best every day. In order to do this well, I’ll need to let go of some of my own expectations, my standards that make me feel like things in my life are good enough.
What about you? How do you determine God’s best for you? How do you prioritize so you’re living out God’s best and not settling for good enough in your life?