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Bloom: When Relationships Bloom

Flowers Bloom quote

By Jeanne Takenaka

My Five Minute Friday prompt this week is—Bloom. This largely unedited “rough draft” form of writing stretches this perfectionist, in the best of ways. I write for five minutes on a given topic. If you’re interested in learning more about 5-Minute Fridays, check out Lisa-Jo Baker‘s site. Or, click on the link at the bottom of this post. As you read my simpler Friday posts, I hope you’ll join in the conversation!

Daisies in bloom

I just returned from our family vacation. My sister and her family, my parents, my other sister and us.

We spent days “almost camping,” because this girl doesn’t do tent camping.

One afternoon, we walked around Crested Butte, in the mountains of Colorado. Wild flowers bloom everywhere (which must be why they hold an annual Wild Flower Festival). We talked, ate ice-cream and other sweets and laughed. Together.

Three boys running, one girl gazing at and pining for stuffed animals.

And relationships bloomed.

Sharing happened that has never happened within our family before.

Hearts opened. And seeds were planted and bloomed.


As I watched my brother-in-law with his children, arms wrapped around each other, I smiled. He’s (and my sister) watering seeds planted within them. Teaching them how to be a man and a woman.

My honey and I learned from our family this week. We want our relationships with our children to bloom, not just with a flower here or there, but with vine arms wrapped around necks and waists and hearts.

Blooming happens with sun and water. With words of honesty and affirmation. And in the case of children, with intentional training.

Maroon columbines

The wildflowers in Crested Butte were colorful and amazing.

But what I’ll remember most is children laughing and hearts connecting as the sun shone down on us. As we watered each other with hugs, a little begging, with smiles and sharing memories.

BIL with kidsFamily relationships bloom when watered with love.

That’s what I want for my kids, for my family.

What about you? What helps you bloom? How do you water the relationships in your life?

Lisa-Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday: Bloom

17 thoughts on “Bloom: When Relationships Bloom”

  1. I try to water all my relationships with my presence. To be fully present with the other person—my wife, my daughter, my friends—is a reflection of my full presence in God’s love. Blessings to you and your family!


  2. Jeanne- This is full of sweetness, beauty, and profound truth. I love the thought of watering our relationships with hugs and “Family relationships bloom when watered with love.” It looks like you all had a great time of connecting. Thanks for sharing your story and your gift. Your words always bless me.


    1. Awww, Karen, thanks for your kind words. I always love your posts too. We did have a great time. Getting back to life-as-normal has been a bit tricky today. 🙂 But we’re doing it, and I’m still wrapped in the warmth of our memories. 🙂


  3. What a lovely post! Fills my heart with a feeling of light.

    And also loss, because it’s not something that has ever really existed for me. I came from a ‘family’ that was closer to the Sopranos than the Cleavers, and never learned to make those connections of trust and love. In my marriage, I try to be present and attentive, but there are ingredients I simply don’t have, to bring to the union.

    The lifesaving exception is animals, mainly dogs, but also cats,horses, goats, rabbits, and an inquisitive mouse. I don’t know why that is. Too tired now to analyze.


    1. Andrew, we all bring our gaps and our strengths to a marriage. Part of growing together comes in the being present with our spouse. Sometimes the gaps are filled in by God or our spouse. Other times, they are accepted as they are and loved through.

      I know that my family experience was different from many of those I know. It’s not an awareness I take lightly. It prompts me to pray for those who grew up with very different memories. Saving animals is safe, and noble. And good. I’m rambling now. 🙂 Praying for you tonight.


      1. Jeanne, thanks for the wisdom – and the prayers. I am taking both to heart! 🙂

        The prayers are really appreciated. Hurts too much to sleep, and I’ve been awake for about 72 hours. Kind of like reliving college-all-nighters with rugby thrown in.


    1. I’ve never been to Ouray, but I’d love to get there. Maybe when the wildflowers are at their peak! 🙂 It’s been beautiful that’s for sure. I hope your time in the mountains was wonderful!


  4. Hi Jeanne. Beautiful post. Relationships. That is life. Real life is being present and wide awake to our relationships. No cell phones, TV, or computers. Just going for a walk without the gadgets interrupting. Face to face live communication is the very best. You get to read body language and facial expressions. Can’t be done through emails. We were with friends this past weekend and how wonderful to hug them and eat with them and have them show us their home projects and just see their smiles. That is true relationship. Blessings…


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