By Jeanne Takenaka
We always have to decide if something is the good or the best for us.
I first learned this lesson as a single-twenty-something wanting desperately to have someone to walk through life with. I’d dated a few guys, but all left me thirsting for more.
For someone who loved God fervently and who cherished me.
I know. It sounds self-centered. God placed within me—perhaps within every woman—the desire to be cherished. If I was talking of little girls, I would say with a desire to feel like a princess.
I realized there were plenty of good guys I could date and get to know. But there was only one best guy for me. When I met him, I sensed it.
As our friendship began, I worked with the high school youth group, attended Bible study, helped with the two and three year olds on Sunday mornings. And helped lead worship at a fledgling little church in the middle of the woods. There was something special about being involved in the lives of so many others.
As my relationship with my future husband deepened, God showed me I needed to let some of these ministries go if I wanted to learn how to love well. One by one, I stepped out of each of these commitments as God directed.
I said no to the good so I could have God’s best for me.
As my honey and I have walked through life together, we’ve said no to a number good things. It was hard. Especially after I’d been involved in them for years. At times, I’ve felt like I was saying no to something that was a part of my identity.
But my identity isn’t wrapped up in the things I do, it’s defined by Whose I am.
I’ve had seasons of stepping back, leaning in close to the Lord. Seasons where He reminded me His best wasn’t in all the activity, the busy-ness, the serving.
Sometimes God’s best is found in being still before Him.
Saying no to the good things gives freedom to say yes to His best. When I’m overcommitted, I don’t have time to say yes to one more thing.
When I’ve filtered each preceding “yes” or “no” through God, it’s easier to say “yes” when He brings His best across my path.
When I can be involved in His best for me, I’m in a happy place in my spirit. I’m communing with Him on an intimate level.
Saying no to the good opens me up to walk in His best for me. And that’s just where I want to be.
What about you? When have you said no to something and had an even better opportunity open up for you? How do you determine the difference between good and best?