Before you read on, please take a moment to view this 41-second video:
As I watched this clip, my throat tightened at the act of pure love this young boy showed his little sister. He couldn’t lift her across the gap. He couldn’t hold her hand and pull her across. So, he laid down and became a human bridge for her. He wanted to be with her, he made a way.
How often do I reach beyond my comfort zone to become a human bridge for another? Am I willing to be inconvenienced, willing to step out of my agenda for the day to be a bridge to another?
Am I willing to treasure someone enough to wear their smudges when they step across me to find love?
I don’t always want to bridge a hurt with love. Sometimes, I’d rather let the relationship fade than to open up my heart . . . span the gap between me and another. And be stepped on.
I have a couple relationships in my life that are the “stepping on” kind. These aren’t relationships I can walk away from. God has placed within me the conviction that I need to love them.
Regardless of if they ever love me in return.
Whether or not they appreciate the things I do to show them love.
Leave the gap open between us.
Because sometimes, it just hurts too much.
In one relationship, I’ve failed at loving. Past hurts and present jabs bricked up a wall between me and the other person. Her words and actions have raised my insecurities, leaving me wondering if I’ll ever be enough in her eyes. It’s become easy to keep my heart locked away from her.
I don’t know if we’ll ever be heart-to-heart close, but God’s nudging me to be a bridge for her. She doesn’t know Jesus. Maybe she’ll see Him in me and be drawn to Him if I act as a love-bridge for her.
As I’ve prayed about how to love this person better, I’m seeing three steps I need to take:
- I need to trust God to heal these hurts, not expect her to acknowledge and apologize for them. I need to ask Him to soften my heart toward her. This requires humility and letting go of the past.
- I’m asking God to give me strength to stretch beyond my comfort zone and reach out to her. Right now, this is difficult, but this relationship isn’t going away.
- To love her well, I need to figure out what speaks love to her and do those things. I don’t see her often, but I can reach out through phone calls or letters.
She may never love me in return, but that’s okay. If I’m doing what Jesus asks of me, that is enough.
I’m loving Jesus by loving her.
He’ll strengthen me to be a bridge—laying myself down and reaching out to her in love.
What about you? When have you been a bridge of love for someone? Does this idea sound crazy and unrealistic to you?